Looking for Sameness

I appreciate the comments on my previous post and I wonder if anyone else noticed a pattern in the responses. It seems that once a physiological distinction is found between two people, for instance one being a man and one being a woman that we begin to look for behavioral distinctions that set them apart as well. If we are able to identify any differences we automatically assign the reason for these behavioral differences to the physical distinction when, in truth, these differences are more likely the result of differing values.

On the other hand we might observe two children, child “A” who is well behaved and another, child “B” who “seems” disruptive or disrespectful. Our determination on each child is usually based on our own values yet rather than question the values of all involved we usually assign a “reason” for child B’s misbehavior that has nothing to do with values. Instead we look for a physical difference that we can blame for their behavior. If we find one then we are exempt from the arduous task of teaching the child the reason why their behavior is offensive. We need only condemn them and punish or shame them into submission.

Isn’t that what we do with everyone when they differ with us? I wonder what would happen if at the point where we differ we would stop and look for similarities rather than finding more differences. Is it possible that we could then clearly see the real distinction between them and us and better resolve the differences? What if we consider the way God sees us? What distinctions would He find between us?